Adulting

2:00am

"I feel stuck"

Life does move on and people do move on, and if you feel like you're stuck, then its about a matter of perspective as well. 

Because you too are moving on, and growing, but just not in a way that you might have thought. You're growing in your survival, your ability to live in a new culture.. and I remember the huge amounts of sharing you wrote to me about the life lessons you've learnt from the villagers.

And I thought that was so impressive because even though you're in a difficult situation you're still constantly learning and maturing. Because what you're experiencing now and the hardships of being rock bottom is itself so formative to your maturity as a person that you just can't get any other way..

You never succeed in your mentality or positive mindset unless you've had some hardships and struggles and hit rock bottom and have fought your way back to survive and love others with perseverance. This idea that you're not "adulting" because you're not "growing up" as a Sydney based middle class person with rent/house/stability is really silly. 

People like you who are slumming it, learning to survive, cry and use their tears to make themselves stronger, and finding beauty in simple love and care have 10 times the character and fortitude than any of that. So to me.. I really admire what you're going through and you're really really brave. 

You may feel you're stuck because everyone else has moved on, but ask yourself the questions, where have they "moved on" to? Greater purpose in life? Greater meaning? Greater success? Those things are all achieved in the hearts attitude no matter what circumstances you're in.

Everyone has different life stages and challenges, and just because she/he is at that age doesn't mean she/he is going to be happy or successful.

Discontent + Progress = Success and Happiness 

Every persons' character and maturity is different. 

If you don't ever move or take risks in the world because of fear then you'll never move at all because there'll always be something to fear and be paralysed by. But at the same time you also have a mind, you also have discernment and wisdom so you can make good choices in life and reduce the changes of bad choices or unhealthy outcomes. 

I personally think Success is fulfilling the vision of God in your life for the good of others, and is independent from life's comforts and circumstances. If you have a compelling vision of why you feel God has put you here in this world and you persevere in reaching it, then it doesn't matter whether you live in the slums or not, because you know you're fulfilling your purpose, and not other peoples expectations.